The basic rationale for personal development can be understood from the necessity to understand one’s own human needs, together with spiritual, emotional and social development, because a failure to understand this about one’s own self is unthinkable if trying to understand and relate to other human beings in any meaningful way.
A person’s development can be perceived in many different ways; for example as in Freud’s Psychosexual Development Theory (Marshall, 2004) which looks at stages of sexual development and the frustrations connected to each stage, or Havighurst’s Developmental Stages (Sugarman, 1986) and responsibilities which identifies:
responsibilities that arise from physical maturation
responsibilities that arise from personal values
responsibilities that have their source in the pressures of society
or by Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs(Maslow, 1998).
Or indeed by any of the other methods and theories that have been developed, and which may be studied and related to the needs of a counsellor in training,e.g.:
Erikson’s Stages of Psychosocial Development Theory
Piaget’s Phases of Cognitive Development
Kohlberg’s Stages of Moral Development
Gilligan’s Theory of Moral Development
Which is to name but a few, and some of which will average more to one person than to another.
What is really important is the chief condition of recognising ourselves and others as human beings with developmental needs and developmental constructs, the understanding of which is paramount to enabling a real understanding of the human development processes and the requirements necessary in order to work towards living a contented and fulfilled existence for ourselves, and for engaging meaningfully with others working towards the same.
An individual’s decisions are often influenced by social construction, by adapting our personality to fit in with the expectations of friends, family and employers; whilst in relation to any other person we may act in response to our own unconscious and emotionally fuelled expectations. The person we are depends upon our life experiences and feedback from others about how we inter-relate with those people with whom we come into contact, in addition as the physical, cultural and spiritual worlds in which we find ourselves. If we are to be able to relate to others whose personal construct and developmental processes that have led to what they have become with any real empathy and congruence, we must first understand our own construct. In taking responsibility for learning about our own emotional and social actions, understanding and development, we act authentically; but allowing our social construct to make choices for us could be seen as acting un-authentically.
Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs takes a assumption that once the most basic human needs are met it becomes possible to progress by successively more progressive levels of need, to culminate in ‘self actualisation’. If we include in exploring this course of action we allow ourselves the opportunity to develop a relationship with one’s self which leads to and enables the formation of a more understanding relationship with others.
This hierarchy of needs is based on a ‘Humanistic’ approach and the concept of ‘self actualisation’ as described by Carl Rogers, who stressed that self-awareness of the person, on a conscious level, is the most important way to work in understanding behaviour by making reference to the internal framework (Rogers, 1961).
Looking at Kohlberg’s stages of moral development (Kegan, 1983) helps us to understand where a person might have difficulties if they have not experienced such moral development by without of cultural or social contact, or by without of understanding.
It is only by developing our own understanding of personal development theories and practices that we can develop the skills and practices to help others who are experiencing from some without of personal development or some misguided thinking developed during their upbringing.
Hazel Johns in her book on personal development in counsellor training (Johns, 1996) states what her minimum outline for development in counselling should include:
To learn and unlearn
To have enough sense of identity to survive and prosper in personal development and personal relationships
To love and be loved enough
To have sufficient self esteem and personal strength to cope with dependence, independence and interdependence
To be resourceful and creative
To notice and oppose oppression in in any case form it comes
To be strong and unprotected, tough and tender as needed
To understand and apply theory and skills relevantly to themselves and others
To grow in clarity about ethical standards and never be complacent
To be aware of their own and others need for sustain and challenge
To have a range of effective ways of being alone and in a group
To see and feel connections with a wider society and world; to be political and care about change, however they live that out.
I would take this further and state that these are things that every enlightened individual needs as an outline for their personal development in order to be a success in any form of relationship, no matter if that be personal or business based and I would add to this list:
To communicate clearly
To have an understanding of the spiritual
To understand basic mental health issues and how they affect themselves and others
To understand the linkages between physical, mental and spiritual needs
It would be easy for a non-spiritual person to ignore or overlook what may be a very strong sustain or conversely a very damaging practice for another person. Understanding the difference between on the one hand spirituality or spiritual practices and however religion and religious practices is basic, as the first can be extremely supportive and the latter decidedly destructive when teachings and practices are restrictive and/ or unnatural.
Everyone entering into a working relationship with you has the right to expect you as a specialized, in any context, to be capable and well enough equipped to be able to attend to their specific needs, and this places great demands on the specialized’s emotional resources.
Professionals clearly have needs of their own and those drawn into the ‘helping professions’ are often more comfortable giving than receiving, so it is basic that we recognise from the outset that self-awareness, self-motivation, choice and the capacity to consider alternatives are inherent to the human condition of identity and change; hence we need the opportunity to include with and focus upon these things in order to be fully equipped for any role we are aiming to attempt.
Personal development is basic to the specialized no matter what sector they work in, and the opportunity to include not only in personal reflection but also in working on this personal development with someone having the understanding of the various developmental theories, at both a personal level and in relation to a group of people with various backgrounds, cultures and upbringing who are brought together by attending a developmental course is a vital opportunity.
The advantage of engaging in a personal development training course is that the course provides: A safe place to learn, the opportunity to analyze different understanding and approaches to theories and analyze the relational personalities of a different group of people willing to include in the same subject matter along with the sustain of knowledgeable trainers to cure incorrect understanding and practices and an opportunity to be introduced to theories that may not have before been encountered.
It is consequently basic to commit to personal development at the outset of and throughout training and specialized practice of any sort in order to be the best we can be. It is also important to actively seek and include with such training after beginning a specialized career by attending conferences and workshops dedicated to further personal development, and opportunities for this are obtainable by Indulgence Un-limited in addition as other specialized organisations.
Johns, H. (1996). Personal development in counsellor training. London: Sage.
Kegan, R. (1983). The Evolving Self: Problem and course of action in Human Development. Cambridge, Massachusetts: Harvard University Press.
Marshall, S. (2004). Difference and Discrimination in Psychotherapy and Counselling. London: Sage Publications Ltd.
Maslow, A. H. (1998). Maslow on Management. Hoboken: John Wiley & Sons.
Sugarman, L. (1986). Life-span Development: Theories, Concepts and Interventions. Oxon: Routledge.